Just to begin. I cannot stand the word "should". There are several reasons for this. Actually, there is a small list of words that I cannot stand because of the way that they are used in our society.
Should is one of the biggest ones on the list. It shares a space with the phrase "supposed to". UGH!!! These words/phrases are so judgmental in nature and most of us don't even realize it.
If you don't know me personally or professionally, you may not know that I live by The Four Agreements. It is a quick read and it offers insight into how we interact with our world. It offers a fresh (based on Toltec Wisdom) take on how we interpret ourselves within our society.
Frequently, when we use the word "should" or the phrase "supposed to", it is because someone else (parent, teacher, friend, pastor, etc.) has told us that this is the "rule". However, where did that come from? For instance, moms that believe that they "should" be doting with their children and accommodate every single need have been taught that this is the "proper" way to do things. However, moms that believe that children "should" be allowed to make mistakes and learn through natural consequences believe that this is the "proper" way. However, where is the book on how to raise every single child in the world. There is not one. There is no book on how to raise every child because they are all different in their thoughts, feelings, abilities, and talents. Therefore, there would need to be a new book written for every single child. That would be tedious work for anyone.
I challenge you to be mindful of the times that you use the word "should" in your own self-talk. I encourage you to look at the things that you are "supposed to" do and ask yourself how they serve you in your life.
I look forward to our next little "session", and until then, Much LOVE!!!
I am a very laidback woman. I am a Licensed Certified Social Worker, and I have been in practice in the fields of mental health and substance abuse for over 15 years. I love what I do and I have a passion for helping to end the stigma associated with mental health.