How are you honoring yourself?
We are taught from a young age to take care of others. For women, this is a more frequent message that we are given. In the course of our lives, many times, we are told that we are the "role model" or that we are the "keeper" of others, especially if you have a sibling that is younger than you. For many of us, we are frequently taught that others are more important than self.
These are mixed messages for many of us. We are giving ourselves to make sure that others are taken care of, and that is a noble cause. However, at what cost? When we are busy taking care of others' needs, we forget to take care of ourselves. We give up sleep, time, food, and money to take care of others. This is not to say that you "should" forsake your fellow human, but know your limits. Some of the most giving people that I know are the ones that are in the most need of help. They are the people that are willing to give to others, but most of them know the limits that they have, and some forget that they need care too.
For those of you that have met me in person, you know that I love to tell people that I am awesome. Truth is, I am. I am a great and powerful woman. I am a warrior. I have been in need, and I have been prosperous. I have had the tough times that many don't know about, and I have had the times of elation that are just as personal. And one of the most important things that I had to learn to say to people is "NO". This was not done out of malice, but I knew that my health, my mental and physical well-being could not sustain such stress and duress. I had to learn that I am not the "babysitter" of everyone else's emotions. I am not here to make sure that others are happy. I am here to make sure that I am happy and that I don't harm anyone else in the process. I love when people join me in my joy, but I also appreciate those that want to join in my sadness as well.
Learn how to honor yourself. Learn what you want and how you want your life to look. Do things that lead you toward that goal, that life, that purpose.
Much Love to you ALL!!!
I am a very laidback woman. I am a Licensed Certified Social Worker, and I have been in practice in the fields of mental health and substance abuse for over 15 years. I love what I do and I have a passion for helping to end the stigma associated with mental health.